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Shadow Games

What the consistent practice of ~~existential kink~~ and ~~tapping (EFT)~~ have done for my life is kinda hard to explain bc it's so deep and profound but I'm gunna try :

I don't have panic attacks anymore.

I also do this thing where in between being asleep and awake I can soothe any panic or anxiety and dissipate it completely before I fully wake up.

I am so much more in tune with my body and no longer binge eat/overeat OR IF I DO I don't shame myself for it and therefore the lure of overeating has no power over me.

When I see my bank account and don't like it, i have learned to not feel the sting/ache/heartwrenching pain of not "having enough" and therefore i just don't make it a problem...and it's not.

I've developed this sense of boredom for things that used to cause so much drama and pain in my emotional body that the pain has just...fallen away

I'm more myself. I feel an actual sense of self acceptance and accepting WHAT IS/the moment.

When intrusive thoughts pop in I literally just laugh at and with them and again...they have ZERO power over me. I don't take them seriously at all and because of that they've released their grip on me.

I feel more stable and balanced than ever.

I feel a sense of acceptance when it comes to other people and their action. I feel more love and humor towards the fact that I am a human and they are humans.

I cherish my relationships more now.

I used to be incapacitated by my social anxiety.

I still have social anxiety but I literally just let myself feel it. And...i've actually found it to be kinda fun and thrilling.

YES you heard me right, i've learned to sometimes experience my anxiety as a fun and thrilling sensation instead of a BIG sense of doom that causes me to completely shut down.

But......EVEN if I do shut down...it doesn't prevent me from doing the social thing or carrying on with my life.

The Freeze Response just doesn't have as much control over my life as it used to...or dictate my actions.

OMG i almost forgot.

Pleasure. LOL OBVIOUSLY

Widening my capacity to experience pleasure has changed my life in the best ways.

I didn't even realize how much I kept myself from permitting more pleasure in my life.

The constant healing, self-help books, therapy, coaching, thinking about how to solve my problems, changing my diet, developing new habits....

Turns off the tap of pleasure pretty quick.

Sucks up a lot of erotic energy to always be “healing.”

With the help of Existential Kink practices and Tapping I’ve felt into and been able to integrate the fact that I’m not broken and never was.

This has freed so much energy to experience more pleasure.

Pleasure has also been the #1 antidote to help dislodge residual sticky trauma, and alchemize it.

Pleasure is your birthright, and effects of trauma cannot survive with pleasure.

Also…since working with EK and EFT, I’m less desperate.

Which works well working for myself because no one wants to buy coaching from coaches who are desperate for your money.

I’m cool if you wanna work with me or not.

And if I’m not cool with it or feel some uncomfortable feelings about it, I lean into the sweaty, hot, thrilling sensation of feeling rejected. And then I’m able to let go so quickly.

Ughhhfvjyfbhf fuck it’s so good.

Tapping/emotional freedom technique is the best tool I've learned to process emotions. And processing emotions is how we get out of them.

Existential kink teaches radical positive regard for ALL your emotions, sensations, experiences...

And so the two in combination are deeply transformative when it comes to hard or painful sensations because there's a true alchemy that happens.

Giving myself full permission to feel what i feel and not shame myself for any of it is incredibly freeing.

LISTEN MY LOVE—

What if you could look back at all the shit you’ve been through, think, “it all makes sense,” and feel your heart glowing with serenity?

What if you simply could make more money? And all your desires for MORE were valid?

What if you could *finally be able to experience your body** as the joy-giving, life-affirming, hilarious, beautiful, deeply wise vehicle it is during your precious earthly incarnation?

What if you could finally experience yourself as the whole, adorable, mind-blowingly perfect, delightful human bean that you are…no matter what your mood was?

I really want you to sit with these “what if’s”….

& feel what would change in your life.

…Because these are the exact results I have gotten through practicing the combination of Existential Kink and Emotional Freedom Technique.

I’ve legit never seen a course like this one. Ever.

I’m honored to be the steward of it.

Join me on the magical, thrilling, delectable, sexy, weird, delightful, joyful ride of somatic shadow work in Shadow Games, where you learn to internally alchemize pain to pleasure.

Pleasure is your birthright.

Remember who you are.

What People Are Saying:

When I started counseling sessions with Danelle, I had already worked through a lot of my past trauma in therapy, but I was still getting stuck in similar patterns and finding myself in similar circumstances as the very ones I had been counseled through. I was repeatedly pulled toward these situations that would very obviously end in pain despite “knowing better.” I figured it was just the way my life was going to play out forever…until Danelle introduced me to Existential Kink. The Existential Kink practice has helped me liberate myself from destructive cycles and patterns by acknowledging my unconscious shadows – the aspects and facets of myself that I saw as “bad” and made me feel like a victim and were causing me pain – and allowing myself to embrace these parts of me and the (sometimes) unpleasant sensations they cause. Once I said “yes” to experiencing the uncomfortable sensations connected to my old trauma, I allowed myself to process and move on from them. Believe it or not, these long-buried parts of me usually just wanted to be heard and accepted so they could move on as well.

Through coaching with you, I’ve learned how to connect to my own higher power. I’ve been able to experience myself from a place that I’ve never experienced myself from before. Being able to see myself for who I am and love and honor her has been the greatest gift.

My biggest challenge when we first started working together was not knowing how to claim my boundaries and how to allow myself to feel my feelings. Because of your coaching, I’m able to process my feelings and give myself permission to create boundaries in my relationships and not feel guilty about these boundaries or feel a sense of abandonment. I had so much of shame and guilt around creating boundaries, and have felt a removal of this shame. Coaching with you has been the greatest testament of my reattachment to myself. You’ve created a safe space for me to show up and do this work.

While Danelle provides the space and tools to heal what you want to heal, she does so while reminding you that who you are makes sense because of the experiences that shaped you, and that you are worthy just as you are at every step of your journey.

So, my favorite part of doing this work has been the permission to accept and to be myself - the "good," the "bad," and the "ugly" - even as I work to create more inner peace. I always thought I had to strive to be an emotionally neutral robot that never gets triggered, but Danelle taught me that I have both the responsibility to heal my trauma and also to distinguish boundaries (when to recognize that the past is triggering me vs. when to stand/speak up for myself). My biggest transformation came when Danelle told me "there's no such thing as 'inappropriate,' that I myself am not inappropriate, and that what I say is neutral depending on the group to whom I say it. As someone who often shame-spirals and overthinks during social interactions (and before and after, haha), you can imagine the relief I felt releasing yet another burden of perfectionism. This epiphany taught me that learning what to say and to whom is just another skill to be honed and not an unalterable deficit on my part.

For so long, I’ve worn a mask. People have told me I should “hurry up and let this (trauma) go…just move on,” and Danelle helped me realize it’s okay to be where I am and to feel how I feel. Danelle has helped me feel validated, and like I’m not crazy. Danelle helped me recognize that I’ve been through a lot, and it makes sense why I feel how I do. Danelle also helped me notice how my body responds to certain emotions...and that I'm allowed to feel those emotions. That has been so helpful for me. This experience has given me so much comfort with the fact that I’m still processing my past experiences. I feel comfortable saying, “where I am now is okay...it's exactly where I should be." Through coaching with Danelle, I've also learned to take ownership of my journey.

I’m now able to have hard conversations without breaking down, and without it ruining my day. I’m able to be vulnerable and honest while having hard conversations without allowing emotions to overwhelm me. I feel like I can now have hard conversations, and emotionally regulate. I’m able to sit with my emotions and express myself without freezing or retreating. I don’t let my emotions shut me down anymore. I’ve also become so good at expressing my boundaries, needs, and holding people accountable. I’ve had breakthroughs on so many levels since working with Danelle. I’m noticing people I love growing with me, instead of away from me. The fear of growing out of my close relationships had kept me from actually working on myself for a very long time. Danelle helped me shift decades-worth of negative thinking, conditioning, and maligned beliefs. Working with Danelle has been life-changing! But the best part is that Danelle guided me to be able to achieve these things on my own, which shows that I have made real, lasting, change.

The biggest thing that has happened from coaching with Danelle is I’m more in tune with who I really am. I know myself now. I feel so much more honest and self-aware. I used to be so self-conscious…and I would feel so guilty for the way I felt. I always thought that when people behaved badly around me that it was about me not being enough in some way…plus I would make excuses for them. I’m understanding that so many negative things are not worth my energy anymore. I feel lighter and free. Something I’ve learned coaching with Danelle is that I have all the insights within me, which has been the most valuable realization. Danelle helped me be able to figure things out on my own. I’ve been having those light-bulb moments where I think, “oh my god, it all makes sense.” I am so grateful.