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Shadow Games:

The Best F*cking Shadow Work Course

 

You smile and say "I'm doing well, how about you?" when you're secretly drowning inside.

 

You've spent a loooong time making yourself smaller—dimming your voice, swallowing your needs, apologizing for taking up space. The to-do list never ends. The mental load is crushing.

 

Trying to keep it all together.

 

Your calendar is full of things you said "yes" to but wish you hadn't. 

 

You've built a life that looks good from the outside—responsible career, well-kept home, relationships where you're always the supportive one—yet something essential feels missing.

 

That spark. That aliveness.

 

The ability to say what you wanna say out loud.

 

That freedom. That flow.

 

The permission to be messy, to have needs, to set boundaries without the crushing guilt and fear that follows. 

 

 

There's another way

You scroll through social media, looking at women who seem so free in their expression, so at home in their bodies, so unapologetic in their desires, and think, "HOW is she like that??” 

 

Meanwhile, you're exhausted from constantly scanning rooms for tension, anticipating everyone's needs before they know they have them, and feeling everything so deeply. 

 

This is precisely what happens when we banish parts of ourselves deemed "too intense," "too needy," "too much." We exhaust ourselves maintaining an illusion of capability while secretly feeling fragmented, incomplete, hollow—and the most painful truth?  

 

You never chose this fragmentation.  

You were conditioned into it from the moment they first told you to "be a good girl." 

 

It’s genuinely not your fault at all. 

 

I'm ready

THE GREAT MISUNDERSTANDING

 

What Conventional Wisdom Tells You:

 

"You need to heal your trauma before you can be whole."

"Your anxiety is a problem that needs to be fixed."

"Your negative emotions are obstacles to your happiness."

"Your sensitivity is a weakness you need to overcome."

"Your boundaries need to be perfectly crafted and calmly communicated."

"Your desire for more is greed that needs to be tamed."

 

Every book, podcast, and wellness influencer seems to be selling you the same exhausting message:

That you're broken and need fixing (and how you’ll be fixed is by buying their product lol)


The endless circuit of self-help, therapy, coaching, dietary changes, and habit formation becomes a hamster wheel that never actually leads "Enough."

They've got you believing that once you heal enough, process enough, journal enough, meditate enough, exercise enough, or organize enough, THEN you'll finally be worthy of peace. The wellness industrial complex profits from your continued disconnection—selling solutions that actually deepen the wound by reinforcing that something is fundamentally wrong with you.

 

Trust me when I say this (because I’ve been here countless painful times) – when you have the core belief that you are not enough, going down the endless self-help rabbit holes will only leave you frustrated, exhausted, and still feeling “not enough,” broken, fucked up, etc. 

 

Why?


Because you’re continuously proving to yourself that your HUMANITY is not acceptable

 

What Shadow Games Teaches Instead:

 

Your anxiety isn't a problem—it's a messenger with wisdom to share.

 

Your sensitivity isn't a weakness—it's your superpower when embraced.

 

Your negative emotions aren't obstacles—they're essential parts of your wholeness.

 

Your shadow isn't damaged—it's the most authentic part of you waiting to be integrated.

 

Your desire for more isn't greed—it's life force energy seeking expression.

 

This misunderstanding doesn't just limit your growth—it prevents your liberation, blocks your aliveness, disconnects you from your essence. It sucks up a lot of erotic energy to always be "healing."

 

Like, sorry, but I'm fucking TIRED of always trying to heal my way out of being HUMAN.

I'm ready to experience something different

THE LIBERATING TRUTH 

Your shadow isn't your enemy—your shadow is your ally; your shadow isn't a problem—your shadow is the solution; your shadow isn't what's wrong with you—

 

Your shadow is what completes you. 

 

Those aspects of yourself you've learned to hide, suppress, and reject?

 

They contain your greatest power, your deepest wisdom, your most authentic expression.

 

Your shadow doesn't need work—your shadow needs welcome; your shadow doesn't need fixing—your shadow needs integration; your shadow doesn't need transformation—your shadow is the transformation. 

 

The truth is: You're not broken and never were. 

Get free

How will EK and tapping help me?

 

They are two nervous system tools that work magically together to help you go from:

 

Disconnected --> Turned on
 
Numbing out --> Tuned in
 
Chaotic and "all over the place" --> Grounded and Centered
 
Hating and judging parts of yourself --> Integrated and Whole
 
Dreading and overwhelmed --> Blissful and Relaxed
 
Constantly multitasking and never feeling "enough"--> Present and balanced
 
At war with reality --> At peace with WHATEVER is going on
Tapping is a method of drumming on acupuncture meridian points on your body as you process emotions to help reset your nervous system. 
Created by Carolyn Lovewell, Existential Kink invites us to ask "How am I getting off on this?" to explore our fears, and desires on a subconscious level.

What exactly is EK and what can it do for me?

 

Existential Kink is a hypnotic, meditative practice where you are free to experience your humanness and divine-ness – your inner creator and destroyer – without shame or judgement. This practice expands your capacity to handle and hold discomfort and pain as well as love and joy. There is space here for it all.

 

EK is a deeply satisfying gateway to finding pleasure amidst discomfort and pain. It’s about taking radical responsibility for everything you’ve consciously and unconsciously created in our lives.

 

It blends spirituality with carnal desires, merging the sacred with the mundane. Through this practice, we explore the territories within ourselves that have long been tainted with shame and fear.

Who even am I and what makes me qualified to teach all this??

 

I'm Danelle!

(AKA. Nurse Nell)

 

I am a certified trauma-informed & Existential Kink Life coach, ex-psychiatric nurse, have a master’s degree in Chinese medicine, and hold a 300+ hour meditation and yoga certification.

 

My orientation towards coaching and self-help is: my job is to lead you back to yourself. Self-help can be an endless circuit of constantly trying to “heal” from your humanness. My job is to help you embrace your messy and adorable humanity with so much love, humor, kindness, and understanding.
 
My philosophy is: All parts of you are innocent. Even the darkest, hairiest, most disgusting, most disturbing parts. I help you relate to all your parts in a novel & magical way that will change how you see yourself and, therefore, everything else. As within, so without.
 
I am not your guru, your savior, or your hero. You will discover that with the right guidance, you are all these things to yourself.

Peak inside below...

 

This can be your experience too...

“I didn’t have the tools to get to the place I’ve wanted to be. You’ve been a guide for me, because your tools have allowed me to take myself to places that I’ve wanted to go for SO long.

 

I’ve learned how to connect to my own higher power. I’ve been able to experience myself from a place that I’ve never experienced myself from before. Being able to see myself for who I am, love and honor her has been the greatest gift.”

“Because of working with you, everything is so much easier. I’m able to be in the moment and not need to be anywhere else. I’m able to enjoy the experience of just being present.

 

I’m now able to be authentically myself. I feel very stable and I’m able to handle things so quickly. I feel more calm, peaceful, easeful. Everything is re-framed in a better light and it makes day to day things so much peaceful, easeful, and hopeful.”

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